It's a Three Letter Word...

Today's topic for conversation is everyone's favorite. Sex. Three little letters that impact our lives, but how do we use those three letters? There are many directions to be taken with this subject, but I think today I'm going to stay on sexual exploration and relationships.

Sexual exploration can cover many aspects but the one I'm going to focus on today is pleasure. Not just pleasure for your partner, but for yourself. Actually, how can you satisfy your partner if you don't know what makes your own body tick? Though it takes time and creativity to accomplish scintillation. One night stands and thirty minute sessions are great for the guy to get his quick release and take a nap. Women need more finesse; or is it the fact we just need to get a few toys and send ourselves to Jupiter and back. I'm not saying a toy or a pocket rocket should ever replace a man... BUT why not make things a little interesting? Guys should never think or feel they are trying to compete with plastic vibrating tools. Why don't you hit the "naughty" store together? You might be surprised what you pick out separately... Stay with me guys...the rule of the game is to stay comfortable within your means. Never overstep anyone's personal comfort zone. Yet, try to be open to new and different ideas. Spicing-up your sex life or that one little sensation that feels amazing that you never thought possible could change your sex life. If you are one that just covered your eyes and said, "Oh my, I can't believe she is writing about this...," then maybe romance is your way. Take the extra hour to make her feel beautiful. I'm not talking foreplay... Run your fingers through her hair as your look into her eyes...kiss her neck....massage her body...whisper in her ear how beautiful and amazing she is. Feeling like the most beautiful woman in the world makes us melt.

Relationships are one thing we start to work on when we are in elementary school. As we get older the more meaning they hold and society deems them imperative. Granted a "work-in-progress" will always be labeled to every relationship and if you don't put in the time and devotion it will fail. I was asked recently what needs to be in that relationship besides the trust and understanding? Is there love at first sight? Soul mates? Do you think about someone every hour of the day and it makes you smile? Are you able to love unconditionally? The best advice I had for this person was to not settle. If you don't love them and can't accept them for who they are now...it will never get better.

Until next time...